Be Your Lover’s Friend

It said that love evolves into friendship when two got married for decades of years. The most obvious difference between love and friendship, I think, is that friends have more things in common.  They have mutual hobbies and interests. Spouses also need to be best friends. They need to talk—a lot—and not just about the kids and finances. Try committing to giving your spouse one compliment a day—that’s a way toward ongoing encouragement and love. At first this may seem like a no-brainer until you try to come up with a new, true, concrete compliment each day.

If the idea of offering an intentional daily compliment sounds artificial, try it anyway. As long as it is true and not as general as, “Honey, you’re beautiful!” it seems to work. Another benefit of the daily compliment is that it keeps you on the watch—looking for the good, the talents, the favors that your spouse does for you.